Last week I took a gamble by signing up for five consecutive days of intensive training at Freestyle’s black belt candidate camp, while simultaneously pushing to meet deadlines and move forward in my freelance programming career. Going into this test, and going into this past week of training, involved a lot of committing myself first and figuring out if I could succeed later… but I think it totally paid off!
This week’s topic is all about learning from mistakes and using them as opportunities to figure out how move forward. It’s true that this is a somewhat tired cliche — so why is it that we all still get stuck in these depressing loops comprised of good intentions? There’s at least one approach that absolutely never works. But, there is also always at least one very specific way to finally succeed.
Reflecting on my training this past week, initially I felt like it was particularly unremarkable. But then I caught myself. I realized that this week, I completed all but two of my little checks, including the ever difficult-for-me back kick; PRed on my mile time while simultaneously exceeding the minimum requirement of 8 minutes for the first time; sparred an awesome but tough third-degree black belt candidate for 3 minutes for my live sparring round; and finished strong at the toughest conditioning workout of the black belt test to date, the first Mackay Stadium workout. Since when did these sorts of accomplishments start to feel like just another day at the dojo??
This week’s lesson is all about internal dialogue. Even though this week’s lesson is about telling yourself “I can” instead of “I can’t,” and “I am [something positive]” rather than “I am [something negative],” I think it’s incredibly important to consider what sort of effect your self attributions have on the people around you, too.